1. Bias-recognize, and then forgive yourself of your biases.
We are all human. We all have biases-both positive and negative: the super-smart Asian, or the mysterious villain in a turban. The trick is to be aware, acknowledge and not unconsciously pass them on. And don�t let the media or other institutions get away with it either. You can fight back and win!
2.Insist that school and home environments reflect the world young children live in.
Look at the books, dolls, toys, magazines and musical instruments, the colors of paint, paper and markers your children play with. Watch how gender roles are displayed in your homes and classrooms and ask: Do they really reflect our diverse world? Pay particular attention to books as they are proven way to influence a child's worldview, help form concepts of right and wrong, and raise awareness for social issues. Cinderella�s impact on generations of young women should be all the proof you need to convince yourself of the power of the written word. Don�t forget what is absent is almost as important as what is present because the missing link can provide children with the vital information necessary for beating bullying and diversity.
3. Language matter�Watch what you say and write!
Sticks and stones really do break bones and names do hurt. We are not even talking about the racial slurs of the past, but we are talking about other insidious and hurtful language. Use what sociologists call �people first positive language.� For example, a person is blind. He is not a blind person. A child was adopted, not is (meaning permanently adopted). People first positive language applies to racial and ethnic stereotypes, i.e. we sit like pretzels and not Indians. Asians are not Oriental and not every black person is African-American. If this seems like political correctness run amok, one glance at the mountains of sociological and psychological studies demonstrating language�s role in shifting perceptions should be enough to convince the most ardent nay-sayers. And silence isn�t always golden, either. Silence equals complicit agreement when racism rears its ugly head.
4. Teach your child how to be successful.
Tweak assignments (or help teachers) to create a win-win for all. A simple and seemingly innocent �family tree� assignment can send a child in a non-traditional family into a tailspin. A �family orchard� assignment may accomplish the same educational objective yet allow everyone-no matter what their family looks like feel successful and included. Create family or classroom �contracts� of behavior that includes bully-busting values like Respect, Honesty, Compassion, Fairness Responsibility and Courage.
Get everyone on board the diversity and bully-busting train and stick to it.
